You never realize, when you been fucking around with douche bags who treat you like a common door mat, how nice it is when someone finds you and treats you so right 💕
Honestly, you can do one of three things in life. 1, You can numb your emotions and become an emotional robot, 2, you can allow yourself to feel but be paranoid and afraid of losing everything, or 3, you can put yourself out there and put your whole heart into everything you do.
Option 1 sucks because, yeah, you might not feel any real pain if you don’t let yourself love or get attached to anything. But also you won’t feel any real joy and it’s going to be a sad, empty existence for you. That is if you’re even successful in suppressing your emotions.
Option 2 is worse than option 1 because not only are the good things not even going to be enjoyable to you, but you’ll also get to feel the crushing pain of heart break, abandonment and all the other bad feelings, too.
Allowing yourself to get attached to people and love people and places and things is a good first step. That’s what we’re meant to do. But if you’re just paranoid the whole time, y’know, “Do they really even love me?” “What if they cheat on me?” “What if it doesn’t work out?” then you’re never going to enjoy the good times. Plus you’re going to summon all of the bad things you’re afraid of with this type of mindset. Self fulfilling prophecy.
So for example if you do this in a relationship, you’re not going to enjoy any of the happy good times of being in love and enjoying eachother. And then when/if it ends or bad things happen, you’re still going to be just as crushed and heart broken but it won’t have even been worth it because you didn’t get anything good out of it.
I’ve tried both of these mindsets before because I was afraid to let myself love. I was afraid to put my heart out there. I was afraid to trust. I think that’s human nature really. When you’ve been burned, and all of us have, you become more and more guarded.
But I’ve realized the only way to truly live and experience life the way it’s meant to be, is to put your entire heart into it, forget about the past and the future, let all the paranoia slip away and just live in the moment. Any of us could lose everything tomorrow. But we’ll deal with that when/if it happens. As for now, cherish what you do have. Don’t worry about how things could go wrong. Open your heart and let yourself be free 💕✌️
I know it’s easier said than done and it takes a bit of emotional training. We’re all human, nothing to be ashamed of. All I’m saying is to acknowledge it and work on it because it will improve your life ❤️
One thing that going vegan has taught me is that I can do anything I set my mind to! I’ve never really believed in myself a lot tbh. All of the different goals I’ve had throughout my life have been left in the past because I thought I wasn’t good enough for them or I could never achieve them.
That’s the same idea I had about going vegan. I was always interested. I’m allergic to dairy anyway so removing meat and eggs was easier. But I always thought wow how can people do that? It seemed impossible to me and I thought I could never do it myself. But one day I just said fuck it and I told myself I’d try it out for a week. I struggled at first, I ate mostly rice. It took a while but I learned about all the cool vegan stuff I could make and I started trying it out. Started eating more fruits and veggies and trying new things, like tofu.
I learned about nutrition and eating a whole foods plant based diet. I got this book, how not to die by Michael Greger. That one week turned into two weeks, three weeks, a month. The time went by so quick and I assumed I wouldn’t be able to make it past a week. All the sudden its been a couple months and I’m loving it!
Anyway the point of this story is that I fully believed I’d never be able to achieve this. But here I am. And I still feel the same way about many other goals. I dismiss ideas because I feel like I would never be able to do them.
So this isn’t really a vegan post this is a philosophical post. Veganism was just the thing that taught this to me personally. The point is, you can reach any goals you strive for. Don’t ever think you’re not good enough. Because that idea has held me back for a lot of my life. Whatever goal it is you have that you’ve been thinking about for a while but not pursuing out of insecurity, this is your sign to go for it. It might be hard at first, it’ll take learning and dedication. But I promise, you can do it!
💕❤️✨ sending out positive vibes this morning. I hope you all have a great week!
My history teacher back in high school had a clock on his wall that had no arms and it just said “now” in place of all of the numbers. Kids would always joke about it but one day, one of the kids asked him why.
Im paraphrasing here, this was years ago but he said “because we’re always waiting. Waiting for class/work to be over. Waiting for the weekend. Waiting for the summer. Waiting for that vacation. Waiting to graduate. Waiting for the future. A good portion of our lives is spent just waiting. So when are we going to start actually living?”
I know, it’s easier said than done. It’s hard to force yourself to enjoy doing those little things that you don’t particularly want to be doing, like work or errands or whatever. & everyone has bad mental health days, I know. But I think if we consciously try to become more aware of our waiting, and we try to live in the moment, we can all enjoy life a lot more. Life is never not now.
Look out for yourself. Stand up for yourself. Because nobody else is gonna do it for you. If you are unhappy, create your own happiness. Stop waiting on others to provide it. If you want something, go out and get it.
You can’t control others and you can’t control your circumstances but you can control how you experience it and how you deal with it. So let go of your expectations, stop relying on temporary people and live your life the way you want to live it.
Don’t be a h8er